It was late September and I was rushing through a long list of jobs that needed doing before heading off on holiday. There were vegetable seeds to sow, tomatoes, peppers and melons to harvest and process for storage, beans to pick to leave drying in the garage, pots to water, last minute laundry to do, the little barn to get set up for the dogsitter and a recipe to line up for Dig Delve while we were away. It was a lot, but I was up early, had my schedule worked out and was certain I could get everything done before focussing on packing.

Dan had gone to Greece ahead of me, and it was on my way to the cold frames to check on his precious plants that I suddenly saw them. Walnuts scattered all over the ground. I don’t know how I had missed them before. It was as though they had all fallen from the tree that morning. The walnut tree was a gift from our neighbours up the lane, Josie and Rachel, sisters who have lived here since they were children. We had become used to their unexpected but regular gifts – half a dozen eggs from their hens, jars of honey and bars of beeswax from their hives, even two fat trout on one occasion that they themselves had been gifted, but did not care to eat – but the walnut seedling they gave us eleven years ago has outlasted them all. It was a seedling of their own tree, which they had dug up and carefully potted up. Dan let it grow on for a year before planting it out in March 2015.

In early August a message came into the Dan Pearson Studio Instagram account.

“Hello, I’m your fellow gardener, Andrii Romantsov, a 30-year-old horticulturist and landscape designer from Kyiv, Ukraine, deeply passionate about plants, naturalistic garden styles, and everything that grows.

Over the past few years, I have built my own garden centre called Plantsman Kyiv, where I grow and sell a wide variety of ornamental outdoor plants. I propagate plants from cuttings, root them myself, and raise them until they are ready to sell. I also design landscape concepts and fully implement the planting schemes — from start to finish. I am a hands-on gardener: I install irrigation systems, lay turf by hand and select and plant all the species myself. I’m a practical horticulturist who works confidently with all tools, including in the art of topiary.

I hold a degree in horticultural engineering from the University of Environmental and Life Sciences in Wrocław, Poland. During my studies, I also spent a semester in Scotland, studying Horticulture with Plantsmanship at SRUC (Scotland’s Rural College) in Edinburgh as an exchange student. These international experiences shaped me professionally and personally and made me fall even more in love with the culture of gardening in the UK.”

Last year, for our joint 60^th birthday party, we used a local catering company that had come highly recommended by several people we trusted. Pasetti & Boote is run by husband and wife team, Max Pasetti and Steph Boote. Based in Bristol they moved there from London several years ago after pursuing successful careers in catering. Max as a chef at highly respected restaurants including Bocca di Lupo and Trullo and Steph as a menu developer and food stylist with a run of successful pop-ups and her own catering company. Their approach to service was second to none from our first email correspondence to the settlement of our final bill and beyond. The food was exceptional, their team friendly, capable and highly professional while emanating calm competence.

A few months before the event we were invited to a menu tasting at a venue in Bristol, where we sampled everything on the menu that had made our longlist with a view to narrowing it down to our final selection. This included Peach, Stracciatella and Basil Crostini, Wye Valley Asparagus with Tarragon Mayonnaise, Smoked Violetta Aubergine with Pine Nuts, Raisins and Mint and Artichoke and Lemon Ravioli with Oregano Butter. Wine pairings were offered for each course as well as a number of small batch soft drinks made in house by Steph herself. These included a number of seasonal fruit cordials, Oxymel, an infusion made with apple cider vinegar, honey and herbs and a selection of fruit shrubs of which Pear and Bay was the most sophisticated and memorable.

Sami Tamimi is the co-founder of Ottolenghi, a group of London restaurants that have had global reach through the writings of his business partner, the cook, Yotam Ottolenghi. Tamimi is Palestinian and was born and brought up in East Jerusalem, while Ottolenghi is Israeli and was brought up in West Jerusalem.

Although he moved to London in his late twenties, Tamimi has always championed the food of his homeland and, with Ottolenghi, has been hugely influential in popularising contemporary Middle Eastern and Palestinian cuisine both in Britian and globally.

As I have written before, when I was a budding cook, given free reign of the kitchen after the Sunday lunch dishes were done, I would turn to mum’s Marguerite Patten recipe cards. The cards, published in the late 1960’s, were in a teal plastic box with an embossed silver knife and fork on the front and were stored on top of the fridge freezer. The clear plastic lid allowed you to read the divider cards which had headings like Supper Dishes, Casseroles, Salads and Vegetables, Meal Starters and Egg & Cheese Dishes. However, as a child with a sweet tooth and an interest in producing something for afternoon tea the sections I turned to most often were Pastry, Family Cakes, Tea Cakes, Bread & Scones, Gateaux and Traditional and Celebration.

In this last section was a recipe for Pavlova, subtitled Meringue Gateau. In the corner of the card the New Zealand flag showed the origin of this unfamiliar dessert (although Australians will insist it was invented there). The photograph on the front showed a meringue shell filled with anaemic and glistening sliced, tinned peaches and, although the serving suggestion also mentioned passion fruit pulp, there was only a tantalising half passion fruit in a basket in the background to give a hint of what this exotic fruit – at that point, unseen in the wilds of north London – looked like.

The smell of elderflower is everywhere. Rain followed by sunshine has produced moist air that carries its flowery, musky perfume in drifts across the fields and down the lanes. It is strongest in the mornings when the air is still. It pools in the glades down by the stream and by the barns where it mingles with honeysuckle and eglantine to produce an intoxicating blend.

As with many other things this year, the elder is earlier into flower than usual. And, as with the blossom of plum, pear, cherry, apple and hawthorn, it also seems that it will be a bumper year for elderflower. Its more normal flowering time in mid-June always happens at one of the busiest times for us, with annuals to plant out, vegetables to sow and manage and a number of group garden visits, meaning that our focus gets pulled to the areas closer to the house. Combined with a run of wet Junes this means that for several years we have missed the opportunity to gather elder for cordial. Since many of our bushes are on the woodland fringe down by the stream and north-facing, we sometimes miss them completely, putting off to tomorrow what should be done today, lulled into a false sense of security that they will hold onto their flowers for some time yet in the cool. This season’s early start means that I have been able to gather the first blossom to appear and plan on making a batch of cordial this weekend.

Today’s recipe is a departure from the usual. It contains nothing home grown, nothing seasonal and yet it is one of my favourite and most frequently made recipes. The reason for this change of tack is that my Dad died a few weeks ago, his funeral is on Monday and I have spent every evening this week reading through his handwritten memoirs piecing together the eulogy I will give.

Dad was a proud Welshman and his memories of his childhood are vivid and emotive. He was born in Swansea on April 25^th 1935 and was brought up in the suburb of Cockett by his father, Herbert, who worked for an iron and steel merchant, and his mother, Winifred (née Lewis), who left school at 14 and was a maid in the Mayor’s Parlour in Swansea, until she married my grandfather in 1929. The house was on a road on the top of the hill (Town Hill) above Swansea Bay, and you had a fine view of its golden sweep from the upstairs back bedrooms. When we went there as children during the summer holidays, the sound of seagulls and the smell of the sea were ever present.

When I left university in Manchester in 1988 I returned to London, where my first job was as a Wardrobe Technician at the English National Opera. At that point I was set on becoming a costume designer and thought that this would be a good way into the industry. However, I quickly became aware that there exists an ‘upstairs downstairs’ hierarchy in the theatre, which meant that that door would never be opened to me from backstage. My days were spent ironing shirts, washing socks and underwear, removing stains and mending tears to get everything ready for my floor of the men’s chorus when they arrived to start preparing for the evening show.

The 18 months I spent working there were an education on many levels, not least in the variety of cuisines that were available just a step away from the theatre. Most meals were taken in the theatre canteen, but when there were breaks between performances a group of us would head out to Covent Garden or Soho to eat. Many of the places we would go to don’t exist any longer. Lorelei, the tiny pizza restaurant where you had to bring your own wine, Gaby’s Deli on the Charing Cross Road where I first experienced falafel, The Stockpot and Pollo Bar on Old Compton Street, which had long queues well before ‘no bookings’ culture made them ubiquitous and the New Piccadilly Café where a Full English fried breakfast was served in an interior that hadn’t been touched since the 1950’s. All now gone.

At secondary school I was the only boy in my year to take Cookery as a practical study subject. Woodwork and Metalwork were definitely not my thing and although I enjoyed art lessons and pottery particularly, given the option of only one practical subject at ‘O’ Level, it had to be cookery for me. I knew I was unusual amongst my male peers for being interested in cooking and, thinking about it now, I was doubtless bullied in part because of it, but when pushed to choose I didn’t think twice.

Lessons took place in a huge, high-ceilinged room in a new wing built in the 1970’s. Linoleum floored in a shade of petrol blue, banks of double-sided counters, each accommodating two students per side and each with a cooker set into it, were arranged perpendicular to the exterior wall. Plate glass windows running the length of the room offered an expansive view onto the sports field and the suburban landscape beyond. One day in 1980 we saw the smoke rising from Alexandra Palace as it burned.

This week it is exactly fourteen years since we left London and moved to Hillside. Although a lot has changed since then, this time of year still takes me back very strongly to that week. The sense of excitement as we drove along the ridge above our valley through heavy mist illuminated by a hidden sun. The astonishment of having long views to east and west after the claustrophobia of city skylines. And the magic of lying in bed with a view of sky and the treetops. Morning sun lit up the yellowing foliage of poplar, hornbeam and hazel, on the flank of the opposite hillside. The vista animated by the passage of rooks, crows and ravens, black as voids in the glowing backdrop.

The farmer before us had kept all trees away from the grassland to maximise grazing for his cattle. All that remained were an old holly, an exhausted damson and dying plum. In that first winter, determined to make our own mark on the landscape and eager to get a head start on growing food to eat, we planted our westernmost field with an extensive orchard of apples, pears, plums, gages and damsons. However, it was another two years before we got the long planned for nuttery planted, and we wished we had done it sooner, as the hazels were so slow to get away. Seven varieties were chosen, both cobnuts and filberts, with three or four of each variety, to make a total of twenty four trees. Their rate of growth was a little dispiriting for several years. In fact, some varieties looked as though they might fail, but now, twelve years later, all of them are thriving and threatening to burst through their tree guards next year.